It was just that I have this friend from my other world (magazine world)
she is sweet as all get out but has ZERO measure of appropriateness in how she teases.
She hits hard and often and with zero mal intent. But it leaves you feeling winded and tired of having to constantly be on guard.
She hits low and hard and her aim is true but honestly, she does not mean a word of it. It took me a long time to figure out that this is just how she was but it got me thinking about teasing...
how you shouldn't do it
how you shouldn't take offense to it and
how it can make a lasting impression.
She loves me dearly I know, but the teasing has actually separated us a bit. It is like constantly having to be "on" deflecting comments and cleverly discoursing...
a real friend does not use their words to hurt...
so while I am a teaser myself, I don't tease from a mean place and always am trying to make others LAUGH as opposed to making them feel less than.
That's all me was sayin' guys.
If BOTH parties aren't laughing, then the teasing is wrong.
We should constantly be lifting up, encouraging with strong words of faith and excitement for others. Especially our kids who are easy to tease aren't they?
But exasperating them is a SIN so unless they're laughing....and even sometimes then.
This is when I took notice of my being tired of it...when I found myself purposely laughing when I didn't think it was funny at all. Yes, I have told her to stop. It just confuses her because she doesn't get what she is doing.
It is like her gage for proper behavior is broken. Bizarre. This is not reflecting well on her child either...sad.
Regardless brethren, it was not THEE!!!
'Nuf said?
1 comment:
Okay, I get it. She sounds like my MIL, who would literally give you her last dollar even if she was starving, but the woman can make a grown man cry with her teasing.
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