NOT CRITICIZE!
I'm up-I'm up-I'm up and drinking water instead of having my 3:30 am bowl of cereal. Trying to cut out these early snacks when I should be sleeping! But I AM still nursing! (welcoming comments that support extra calorie consumption due to nursing, lol)
But seriously folks, I figure if I cut OUT the extra calories (or at least some of them) that are necessary for nursing AND she really IS still nursing, then I should really be burning them up then, right? RIGHT????
My favorite saying in "Created to be His Helpmeet": Men do not crawl out from under a wif'e's criticism in order to do better for her. Or something like that.
It is AMAZING what support can do for a man. You know, you may be the type that doesn't criticize openly. Whining, moaning, kvetching are all forms. Poo-pooing his ideas are the same. Supporting every thing they do right or wrong without complaint and with joy will build any man into a giant.
Even in little ways. Most ideas they have may not ever come to fruition but it doesn't have to be because we shoot them down. Support of them, of their ideas, of their actions cause them to have the confidence to grow and change and succeed. We all have different types of men but Created speaks of three general types. Each man is a combination but has a dominant trait coming out.
There is the Command Man. This is the guy who is IN CONROL. You never have to wonder what he wants, likes or expects. There is safety with this man but not much room to move around.
Then there is Visionary Man. This is the one with lots of inventive ideas and schemes. Prone to great success or great failure. Causes strife inadvertantly through his many ideas of right and wrong...
Then there is Mr. Steady (that's mine!) He is the every day in and out kinda guy who everyone can always rely on... The book says something like, "He's the guy that cleans up after the battles that Mr. Visionary starts and Command Man leads. Too funny. We may call him wishy washy but still waters run deep.
If you have this book, I would go back and re-read these different types of men. Their pros, their cons and how we can make mistakes as wives with them. I was floored, again, by it's accuracy. I wish I could write it all down! If there is enough desire for it I will...
I have new respect for my Mr. Steady! He is SO coming home to a renewed wife!
He's the man!
6 comments:
I love your posts on this book. I drug mine out from by the commode (good bathroom reading) and I too have a Mr Steady. I had a very powerful dream last night about my husband and losing him. I can remember the intense sadness and emptiness I felt very VIVIDLY. I have only been that scared once before. I love in the book the reflections of the bitter lonely ALONE wife who criticized and demeaned her way right out of a marriage. Needless to say after getting a taste of being alone in dream world last night I am going to go appreciate my man with some love and breakfast before he goes off to work. Bye
Amen. I've done a lot of this in the past two days and wow, what a difference. It is SO easy to become complacent and then complain or wonder why this or that...when really it may be US...
Haven't read this book, it sounds interesting. Just from what you've said, I think I have a Command Man who is transforming into Mr. Steady!
Mine is a command man for sure and I have to admit I kind of like it. Don't really know what that says about me. Anyway,when my 2 oldest were 2 years and 6 months he was in Maine for 7 months while I stayed back home in Burlington, Vermont. I missed him more than I ever thought I would and SWORE that when he returned home I would never take him for granted again. And I didn't, for atleast a couple months anyway. Then we got back into our routines and sure enough I started my nonsense all over again. Through the years, life's events have shaken my out of my complacent ways. The latest event to slap me in the face and really wake me up? The passing of my brother's lovely wife Lauren this past November. Finally at the age of 38 and after 15 years of marriage I am starting to realize that it takes effort everyday, all the time. You can never be lazy when it comes to your relationship with your husband because you truly have no idea what tomorrow holds. The one constant comfort for my brother is that his wife knew, without a single doubt that he adored her and she him. Sorry to have babbled.
not babbling...my Mom speaks of my Dad so sweetly... he wasn't perfect but when we talk about him she sure doesn't dwell on his faults... she speaks about those things she especially loved about him.
Just in case there is any confusion, I have a statement to make..... I must say that I DO LOVE MY HUSBAND. (gag gag gag) The other stuff, I don't think so, baby!!!!!!!
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